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Subject: {ASSM} Fantasy Vs Reality In Incest (incest, no sex, op-ed)
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Author: PlanetDweller
Title: Fantasy Vs. Reality In Incestuous Child/Parent & Similar
Power Imbalance Re">
Summary: An explicit psychological treatise and op-ed piece about
the negative effects of real-life incest and the possible healing
effects of fictional erotic stories about incest.
Keywords: inc, incest, nosex, no sex, sexual language, op-ed
piece
Fantasy Vs. Reality In Incestuous Child/Parent & Similar Power
Imbalance Relationships
By
PlanetDweller
(inc, incest, nosex, no sex, sexual language, op-ed piece)
Over the years of writing erotic stories intended for the adult
reading public only that deal with the very real real-world issue
of parent/child incestuous relationships I've gotten not just
many severe flames but also a couple of actual death threats
threatening to track me down somehow and kill me because they
thought I was somehow promoting real-life child/parent incestuous
sexual contact. Nothing could or can be further from the truth.
Yes, I do write about parent/child incestuous contact a lot in
many of my stories, and I also write about many other what I call
"power imbalance" situations such as sexual relations between an
adult consensually "teaching" a child or young adolescent about
sex, the consensual power imbalance between a therapist and
patient, a usually coercive in nature but sometimes consensual
boss/employee power imbalance, and yes my famous I should say
infamous stories about alien abductions of humans and their
sexual experimentations on them. I make the point that even
between consenting adults there usually isn't an exact 50/50
division of power within the relationship or at least most
aspects of the relationship, pop psychology and liberal political
correctness mutual drivelings about otherwise aside.
There is a huge difference between the fantasy of child/parent
sexual contact that I and many of my fellow writers of online
erotica portray and the reality of the horrors of actual
real-life incestual abuse situations.
When I portray incest scenes, the parent is almost always loving
and kind and sees their sexual contact with their children as a
mentor-to-pupil process, the parent while usually enjoying the
sex itself with their child, their main focus is on the healthy
evolution of their child along their path into adulthood, their
own sexual needs, wants and desire always being placed secondary
or less in their own minds. While not totally self-less on their
part, the parent figure in these cases always projects a positive
benefit and outcome to their sexualizing of their own child.
In the world outside of fantasy erotic fiction, the reality of
the horror of parent/child incest is just that, a true horror. My
own real-life family tree is riddled with the many rotten soul
excuses for human beings that incest'd their own children not
from a point of action of empowering the inner growth of their
children but from a sense of lack of self-worth and self-respect,
a sense of self-love being totally absent from these parents'
identities and often times this lack of self-love of which the
forced incestuous contact was a part of was also manifest in the
parents' lives in other ways via exhibition of other
self-destructive behaviors such as severe alcohol abuse, drug
abuse, and violence against other adults let alone their own
kids, because that's what these incestual encounters were
manifest as, a form of mental and sometimes forced physical
violence against their own children. These beyond
less-than-miserable excuses of human beings used their positions
of power within their family structures to force a form of
violence against their own kids, their position of being atop the
power imbalance "pyramid" giving them the opportunity, means, and
method to seek to fill holes in their soul with the innocence
stolen from their very own children.
I don't care who you are, if you're a human being there's a part
of your genetic code that creates a reaction of extreme nausea
followed by extreme rage when you hear a real-world story on the
news about how a parent, yes usually a father but sometimes a
mother as well, inflicting severe sexual abuse on say, an infant
or a two-year-old or similar for example. If you're not angry
when you hear a news report about how a father raped his own
three-year-old daughter or six-year-old or nine-year-old daughter
and so physically and mentally destroyed her sense of self and
sense of protection that the parent-child relationship is
supposed to offer and sense of self-worth and self-love in that
child, can you honestly tell me that when you hear of the
real-life horrors of real-life incest that your first reaction
isn't complete outrage? If you try to tell me that, then I'll
tell you are either lying to me and/or yourself or that you truly
are a dangerous sociopath, yourself.
Are there, can there be, have there been instances between a
parent/parents and child/children of real-life incestuous contact
that proved very positive for the child/children involved and
maybe even the parents too? Yes, of course. But those instances
were/are so truly rare as to not be worth mentioning. The fact
that one-tenth-of-one-percent or less of real-life incestuous
cases at minimum did no harm to the child and maybe even did some
positive good does not justify the fact that in those other
99.9%"+" cases the child involved had such a huge trauma
inflicted upon them that their very being was negatively affected
if not devastated for their rest of their lives through what was
left of their childhood into adulthood and the bell still ringing
harshly even into their senility.
And the fact that this tiny, tiny percent of cases where the
outcome was positive when there was a positive motivating force
behind the actions of the parents involved belies the fact that
in these cases the positive outcome was a "happy accident" no
matter how misguided but well-intentioned the respective parents'
motivations were. A child is an individualized work-in-progress
where no one not even the parents know the exact psychological,
physical and holistic synergies of their child and to dare cross
such a genetic-based anti-incest-boundary that is present in
every single human being on this planet is not just the height of
arrogance and hubris but also is plain fucking stupid.
When a parent, however well-grounded and normal and mature
otherwise psychologically they might be takes on the
responsibility of forcing the natural evolutionary path that's
programmed into all of us by the forced sexual promulgation of
early sexual activity upon their child and the child either
suffers no short or long-term negative effects from it and
perhaps if the world is lucky as a whole might even obtain
something positive from it, then the result is a "happy
accident", not a result of anything the parent actually did of a
positive sexual nature with their child.
It's like someone who is an untrained chemist decides that they
have the instinctual knowledge to go into a research lab and by
the grace of God only start mixing bunches of chemicals together
in the vain and hubric hope that the witch's brew of
mixed-together dangerous chemicals that they have no clue what
they're blending together might actually do will be the cure for
cancer or an elixir of youth or some other bizarre and
unrealistic product instead of highly probably since they have no
clue as to what they are doing just as no one can know the true
soul-chemistry of any other human being let alone a child
creating an end product that usually poisons and hurts those
involved if not often times destroying the lives of all involved
with an unexpected explosion of unexpected consequences.
When there is no power imbalance, though, such as in routine
sexplay between children of the same age group, then their
respective personal sexual evolutions progress normally as they
should. In other words, kids "playing doctor" with each other is
normal, a parent playing gynecologist or urologist to their kids
is not.
Within the social framework of childhood progression, children
will seek out the knowledge of sex when and where it most
appropriate for them, no matter if parents want to accelerate or
more usually in the vast majority of families all over the globe
in all cultures and countries want to decelerate their children's
sexual education and evolution because the nature of being a
parent is to protect and nurture their children and most adult
parents instinctively, genetically know that sexual knowledge and
sexual contact should happen only when a child has reached a
certain level of personal maturity, prepubescence being a
universal benchmark of said lack of maturity and oftentimes even
early post-pubertal stages also being recognized as being too
early in most children's evolving as a starting point for the
beginnings of what will become their real-time sexual path into
adulthood.
Are there certain, highly unusual situations where direct
hands-on sexual therapy between child and adult sex therapist
could either heal the negative product of true incest or other
sexual abuse? Yes, but those cases would be so rare that they're
not even worth mentioning.
It's one thing for me to write about those kinds of cases in my
own erotic stories as vehicles for fantasy exploration and to try
to help heal the very real adult victims of past childhood incest
and sexual abuse who might be reading those stories and using
what I write as a means to explore and analyze and hopefully come
to grips and help heal themselves by using their vehicle of their
imagination to re-work and re-program themselves so that by
reading about how a hands-on sex therapist helps heal a child
who's been a victim of incest and abuse in turn helps heal the
child still within the adult who happens to be reading one of my
stories.
That's why I began writing my stories about the positive
influences of adult therapist/child patient and benevolent-loving
parent/unusually-mature-for-their-age children sexual contact, in
order to help my mission of trying to help heal others. Little
did I realize then what I know now which is that as I was writing
for my own self-imposed goal of helping to heal others of the
past traumas of childhood sexual abuse that I actually was
creating the vehicle to heal my own self.
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