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Subject: {ASSM} {FAQ} Phoebe's Oral Sex Guide: The Pleasure of Cunnilingus
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Phoebe's Oral Sex Guide: The Pleasure of Cunnilingus
Dedicated to Ted, the best face I ever had.

***

I have been asked to write this tutorial about what a 
woman wants from a man as it pertains to oral sex. I am 
actually going to address both women and men because 
even though it's the man who usually performs the act 
on the woman; there are plenty of women who don't 
really know what they want or how to ask for it.

***

INTRODUCTION:

Most women want oral sex from their men, even the ones 
who protest that they don't. I feel that any woman who 
won't let her man try it has some kind of issue not 
related to the act itself. To the non-accepting woman, 
I suggest looking deep within and trying to figure out what 
the real problem is.

For women who have never let their man eat them, let me 
just say that getting face from a man is one of the 
best feelings in the world. He's paying special 
attention to you in a most intimate way. There's 
nothing like it, if done correctly.

In my case I have been eaten more times than I can 
remember. And although my preference is men, I have 
actually performed Cunnilingus on a few women while in 
tri-sexual relationships.

I have been the recipient of face in enough variety and 
from enough different men (and a few women) to be 
confident that I know every technique of value to help 
you perform better Cunnilingus on your partner.

***

I still remember the first face I ever received. I was 
19-years-old in my first year of college and was dating 
this boy from California. He was one of those surfer 
types, tan all over with sandy blonde hair (even down 
below) and I was head over heals in hots for him. His 
name was John and he was my fourth lover.

I had just performed oral sex on him and he wanted to 
reciprocate. I wasn't an expert at giving head back 
then and I'll admit that I was happy with just 
intercourse and sucking him off. But we were naked in 
his dorm room and we had all Saturday morning to lie 
around so when John crawled on top of me and pushed his 
mouth to my pussy I just luxuriated in the feeling of 
have a boy eating me.

I knew about Cunnilingus, but I hadn't expected any boy 
to actually do it to me. Looking back John probably 
wasn't all that good at it, but the intimacy of having 
his face between my legs was a rush, and come to think 
of it I believe he made me feel pretty good.

I don't think either of us ever had an orgasm from oral 
sex while we were together, but it was enjoyable, and 
I'm pretty sure he liked giving me face.

***

Over the years I found that some men wanted nothing to 
do with oral sex, so after a while I began to rate my 
guys by their ability please me orally, and not by 
their appearance. If a guy didn't want me to give him 
head or visa versa, I usually didn't stay with him very 
long.

I'll get into a little trouble here with my husband, 
but the best face I ever had was by a man named Ted. He 
was a middle-aged man who's wife had died several years 
before after 25-years of marriage and he was so lonely 
that our relationship just sort of happened. He was out 
of shape and a bit pudgy, but could he bring a girl off 
with his mouth! WOW!

He made me orgasm the very first time he went down on 
me and I was totally shocked and amazed. I wasn't even 
all that turned on by Ted at first, I just drifted into 
an affair with him out of boredom, but after our first 
time in bed I couldn't get enough of him. He had 
techniques that I'd never even imagined before.

Needless to say, many of the things I will talk about 
in this tutorial are techniques that I originally 
learned from my wonderful lover Ted. (We were together 
for 11 months before I graduated from college and moved 
back home. I was tempted to stay with him after 
graduating, but Ted was 50-years old and I had just 
turned 23; he was much wiser than me and told me to go 
back home and live my life. What a man!)


*** WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT CUNNILINGUS ***

The following are the required techniques to perform 
Cunnilingus properly. I will outline many different 
techniques, not all of which need to be part of your 
repertoire. Pick and chose, do what comes naturally, 
and enjoy the experience, both the performer and 
recipient. 

The descriptions that follow will be based upon what 
heterosexual couples do to each other. (I'll assume 
that the rest of you can adapt the techniques.)


THE RIGHT ATTITUDE:

Men, if you don't want to perform Cunnilingus and think 
it's gross, then nothing I say on the following pages 
will change your mind. Personally since I own a vagina 
I know that it can be tasty and fun for a man to play 
with. My husband said recently that a young nubile 
pussy is the best gift Mother Nature ever devised. He 
went on to say, "You can fuck it, finger it, lick it 
and eat it out, what a useful thing you have there 
between your legs."

He was being playful, but I also say that a healthy 
pre-menopausal woman has something wonderful to offer 
her man and if properly maintained it is very eatable. 
Cleanliness is sexy. Believe me when I say that a clean 
pussy is a delicacy, I know because I've even tried one 
or two myself.

If your lover doesn't want you to try Cunnilingus on 
her I suggest that you have a frank talk with her when 
you're not about to have sex. If she's uptight about it 
and you're both naked and ready, and you've asked her 
several times, then let it go or you won't get any sex 
at all. But later or even the next morning, talk to 
her, tell her how much you want to try it. Over time 
she should let you.

I've found through personal experience that small 
children can be a real drag on couple's sex lives. Most 
of us with young children go through the stage where we 
feel less attractive than we did before childbirth, and 
a man's attention is just the thing to snap us back. 
When he spreads her legs and buries his face between 
them, he's telling her that he still finds your 
attractive, and that he loves her. (Men, Cunnilingus 
will make your wife a happy woman, and you'll get more 
sex.)


VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE:

The act of Cunnilingus is quite different than anything 
that a woman would perform on a man. Women are just as 
sexually endowed as any man; only it's harder work to 
get to their equipment. Many men pay too much attention 
to the clitoris and not enough to the surrounding area 
and their rhythm. Just like a penis, too much rubbing 
can become painful.

Keep in mind, variety is the spice of life and there 
are a lot of ways to simulate a woman into an 
incredible and satisfying orgasm the likes of which she 
never thought you could. Just don't try too hard, and 
by that I mean, "If it isn't happening don't force it," 
try another time.

The act of Cunnilingus is basically the manipulation of 
the lips and inner folds of the vagina and the 
stimulation of the clitoris. This of course doesn't 
stop the inventive man from feeling his partner's body 
up. She has inner thighs, breasts and nipples that are 
just aching to be gently pinched and pulled while 
tongue and lips massage her intimate spots.


EATING OUT:

Sounds like fine dining doesn't it? Well, in a way it 
is. The backbone of Cunnilingus is the mouth action. It 
is sort of a cross between kissing and sucking. The 
easiest way to describe Cunnilingus is to imagine a man 
at a pie-eating contest eating a pie ravenously with 
his hands tied behind his back.

That motion of dipping his face into the pie and eating 
pie filling is the same motion required to stimulate a 
woman. Be sensual, move your lips, tongue, kiss and 
rub, suck on a pussy lip, feel your way around, eat her 
out with vigor, as the saying goes.

Men, there are a lot of other moves required to bring 
your lady off, but the eating out motion is still the 
mainstay. And women, don't just lie there, tell him 
what to do, get him to do it the way you want it or 
shame on you.


THE CLITORIS:

As I mentioned before, don't over do it with your 
partner's clit. A woman's clitoris is as sensitive as 
the uncircumcised male's penis head. It is tucked into 
a hooded fold of flesh to protect it from stimulation 
while relaxed. When a woman's clit is erect it is super 
sensitive and should be touched only occasionally. I 
will discuss the rhythm in the "example section" later 
on.

There are a lot of things the men can do with the 
clitoris but the most sensual is to lick it. A man's 
tongue is soft, moist and hot and it feels fantastic 
when it's employed on the clit. Other stimulation for 
variety is great, but always come back with the tongue. 
Again, don't over do it, change to other stimulations 
and other parts of her body too.


TONGUE WORK:

As I pointed out in the previous section the tongue is 
a man's best asset when it comes to giving his lover 
face. I like it best when a man can stick his tongue 
into me and simulate fucking motions. That's what Ted 
was so good at. He had the longest tongue I have ever 
seen and it was so talented. There are probably many 
other talented men out there, they just don't know it 
yet.

The most effective technique is to spread the outer 
vaginal lips (Labia Majora) open you're your fingers 
and then force your tongue between the inner vaginal 
lips (Labia Minora) and wiggle it in lapping motions 
trying to reach as deep as you can. Then pull back out 
and flick the clitoris hood, then and push deep in 
again, then repeat these motions as many times as you 
are able.

Tongue fucking can be a strain on both the jaw and 
tongue, I personally can't keep it up for more than a 
couple of minutes at a time, but that is really enough, 
because the clit will probably be screaming for 
attention by then, and there are so many other pleasure 
points on a woman's body that an imaginative lover can 
rotate through them and never really tire out.


TONGUE FLICKING:

An important talent to practice. Flicking the tongue on 
the clitoris can be the "final stimulation" that brings 
her over the top, but only if the shiny little nub has 
been neglected prior and the arousal has been through 
other body parts.

If you use the clitoris during tongue fucking you 
should back off when you notice that she isn't 
responding as violently as in the beginning. Hold the 
clit in reserve to be used as the trigger to her 
orgasm.

Keep in mind that the clitoris is super sensitive and 
should only be "flicked" at crucial times as she gets 
closer to orgasm. Some woman may disagree with me on 
this, but I'm a firm believer in the slow buildup, and 
then the flame out. The problem with too much 
concentration on the clitoris is that she will become 
somewhat desensitized if it is over stimulated and the 
man loses a great trigger.


THE CHIN:

A supplemental massage can be done with the chin. While 
catching your breath the chin can be used by rubbing it 
against the woman's outer vagina lips. (I suggest that 
if she's shaved you better be too.) What I like is when 
he sort of buries his chin between my slick lips, 
spreading them slightly, and rotates his chin slightly 
grinding me. I also like it when he runs his chin up 
each side of the pussy lips and kisses me there that 
can feel really nice.

I've had a man or two even lay their head down on my 
aroused pussy to listen to my pulse. That always brings 
out my maternal instincts and if a guy does that to me 
I usually end up fucking his brains out latter, 
remembering how cute he looked laying there.


YOUR PALM AND FINGERS:

Hands and fingers are an important part of Cunnilingus. 
As I keep saying it takes all your parts to really get 
her off. Men, listen to me carefully here, because if 
you really want your woman to cum on your mouth, you'll 
have to bring all your weapons to bear. Mouth, tongue, 
teeth, fingers even the palm of your hands.

The secret is to keep up a pace, not necessarily on one 
spot, but a pace that stimulates the general area. Get 
your woman to tell you were it feels best, keep asking 
and make a note of it. The fingers are a great 
stimulation tool and so is the palm of your hand. The 
palm can be used intermittently directly against the 
vaginal lips and the fingers can be used to jerk her 
off.


ABOUT FEMALE MASTURBATION:

I guess at this stage I should probably tell you how 
woman jerk off. Oh yes we do, even if you never hear 
about it, we're just usually too discreet to tell you.

The preferred method for a woman to jerk off is lying 
on her back and rubbing both sides of her vaginal lips 
-- sort of like doing the Vulcan salute, with fingers 
on either side.

 From time to time she will touch her protruding clit, 
keeping up a steady pace. As her natural lubrication 
begins to flow she will rub that along her vaginal lips 
moistening the area. Vaginal lubrication has the same 
viscosity as a man's pre-cum and aids in heightening 
her stimulation.

When she gets close to cumming she will increase her 
rhythm, just like a man does, and she will concentrate 
with her fingers on either side of her clit hood. At 
this point her clitoris will be engorged and erect and 
the little fleshy hood will rub against either side.

These actions along with her increased lubrication will 
make her fully aroused and she will continue an ever-
increasing stimulation will soon be enough to make her 
cum with a bang.

I personally like to lift my legs right as my orgasm 
hits; it makes the sensations more intense when the 
tummy muscles are tightened while orgasming. I also 
like to make my rhythm a bit erratic right before I cum 
too, it seems to make me cum harder.

The reason that I've told you how a woman jerks off, is 
to make the point that fingers are an important 
stimulant, and don't be afraid to use yours. Just keep 
that tongue down there too.


NOISY FEMALE ORGASMS:

Men, if you've never made your lover orgasm orally, 
read this, because you could be in for a surprise. The 
female anatomy is designed to have something thrusting 
in and out of it during sex. And when that is the case 
an orgasm is no more noticeable than when a man cums in 
a woman.

But remove the thrusting penis and you might be in for 
a surprise when your mate orgasms by oral stimulation. 
What happens when a woman orgasms is that her vaginal 
muscles spasm, and when this happens and the vagina is 
not filled by a penis its muscle spasms can expel air. 
This action can make various sputtering sounds.

Don't be surprised or grossed out if this happens. All 
it means is that you've made your woman cum with your 
mouth and she's having an orgasm. Consider it a trophy 
of your success, many men will never hear this sound, 
and if you do there is no doubting that you made her 
cum. (This situation will not always happen but it can 
be disconcerting to an inexperienced man.)


DILDOS ARE COOL:

Dildos are great to use during Cunnilingus, assuming 
that she will let you see her with one. I know that 
many women would rather die than let their man see them 
playing with a dildo. I don't have this hang-up, and I 
think there's nothing sexier than my husband playing 
with my pussy with our #10 dildo and licking me at the 
same time.

The only thing men need to know about dildos is that 
they have to be used with care. Don't get carried away 
and start shoving them in too hard. Just because there 
is more depth down there doesn't necessarily mean that 
your lover wants the thing jammed all the way in. My 
rule is no deeper than 5 inches and no faster than 
"slow" I do however let my husband bend it to hit 
against my clit.


ANAL PLAY:

Some women swear by this practice. It of course 
requires prior discussion because many women don't like 
anal penetration, but if they do it will greatly 
enhance their pleasure when done at the point of 
orgasm.

The technique for the experienced couple is for the 
man, while orally stimulating his partner, to gently 
rub his finger along her anal opening, working his 
finger slowly past her sphincter muscle until his 
finger is just barely to the first knuckle. When she is 
about to orgasm he should slowly push his finger deeper 
and wiggle it gently. (Please cut fingernails short, 
thank you.)

As her vaginal muscles spasm her anal muscles will 
grasp his finger giving her the double stimulation and 
greatly enhancing the intensity of her orgasm.

When I know that I have an experienced lover and that 
he will be doing anal play with me, I will take a warm 
water enema just prior to having sex with him. It is 
only good etiquette to be clean and it makes the whole 
thing so much better. (You can get everything you need 
for warm water enemas at your local drug store.)

Anal Play is not for everyone, so if your lover doesn't 
want to do it, move on, there are lots of other things 
you can do to each other. Oh, and by the way, anal play 
can be used on the man during Fellatio, it's just that 
most men aren't sophisticated enough in their sexual 
tastes to enjoy it. It'll be the rare man that will let 
his lover poke him with her finger.


NIPPLES:

Believe me when I say that a lick on the clit will make 
her see stars. That kind of stimulation sends a nerve-
rending charge through a woman's body. In me that 
charge goes right to my nipples. I've never taken the 
time to find out why this happens, but it is a very 
nice feeling to be sure. (When my man gets me up there 
close to the edge I can't seem to stop myself from play 
with my nipples.)

The experienced man will -- at the moment of his 
partner's orgasm -- reach up and slowing twist her 
nipples in his fingers while she bucks against his 
mouth. When that combination comes out right, she'll be 
his love slave for the rest of the night.


WOMEN, SHAVE IT:

Women, if you really want your man to eat you, then get 
rid of all that pubic hair. It's not nice when your man 
gets pubic hairs in his teeth.

There's nothing quite as nice as a female vagina all 
smooth and clean to get your man down there lapping 
away. Believe me when I say it's worth it. Even though 
(If you have regular sex) you'll need to shave every 
day, it will make his experience much more satisfying 
and in doing so you'll get a lot more face.

When I say that you should shave your pussy, really 
what I'm saying is that you should remove all trace of 
hair from around the vagina lips. I suggest that you 
leave a short well-trimmed semblance of pubic hair 
about the vagina though. Being completely bald makes a 
woman look strange. (In my opinion.) Some pubic hair 
looks sexy; you just don't want to have it get in the 
way.


HONEY & WHIPPED CREAM:

For those hesitant men. You know, the ones that are 
reticent about trying Cunnilingus on their partners. I 
suggest the introduction of honey and or whipped cream. 
This of course pre-supposes that you went through the 
shaving process, because it's kind of messy otherwise. 
The advantage to honey or whipped cream is that even if 
he backs out you can still go a head and have 
intercourse, although it might be a little sticky, it's 
still fun.

Honey is a natural antibiotic and won't cause any nasty 
yeast infections, plus it tastes good. You'll have to 
warm it and or dilute it, because it needs to be runny 
so it can be easily smeared "on" and "into" her pussy.

I've had a lover open me up with his fingers and shoot 
whipped cream up into me. It was a really weird feeling 
but he had a long tongue and was successful in getting 
it all back out, which was rather enjoyable.

Chocolate syrup can be a tasty treat too.

I warn you though, be careful about using any other 
food materials "in" your partner's vagina. I've heard 
people who liked things like cheese-wiz and beef 
bullion, I don't suggest either because of the foreign 
mold in cheese and the bacteria in beef bullion. Guys, 
if you don't know about yeast infections ask your 
partner, she'll tell you all about it. Don't expect any 
sex while she's suffering from one.


MARSHMALLOWING:

This is a term for Cunnilingus after sex between a man 
and a woman. This type of oral sex can only take place 
when the couple doesn't need external birth control 
devices such as condoms or foams, etc. 

My experience with Marshmellowing is somewhat limited, 
(It's only happened to me with a few men) but has 
always been intensely erotic when it does happen. The 
first time I experienced it was with Ted. You remember 
Ted? You know the middle-aged oral god. We'd been 
having sex steadily for 6 months when I finally felt 
safe enough with him to go bareback during sex. (Still 
on the pill of course.)

That first time after we dumped the condoms Ted fucked 
my brains out and then held me down as I protested and 
eat my pussy clean. I was only protesting because I 
though he'd be grossed out, which he wasn't.

Afterwards Ted explained to me why he liked doing it. 
It was simple. After we'd had sex, and even though I'd 
orgasmed, he felt that he could -- with a little extra 
effort -- take me to a new level. And that's what he 
did. You see, Ted got off getting his partners off, it 
made his experiences more pleasurable.

Marshmellowing takes a lot of tongue work and Ted even 
had to scoop out cum with his finger. He made quite a 
show of the process. We ended up sharing his cum 
between us and even though I was unsure at the 
beginning, after that experience I was always ready for 
the next time. By the way I never asked him to do it, I 
always considered it a gift and accepted it as such.

One note for lovers who want to try this but aren't 
sure they'll like it. Men, I suggest having a wet terry 
washcloth handy and you can wash your partner's pussy 
off and then if you want to, you can pour a little 
honey onto her. Honey and cum "do" mix, believe me.

In my opinion marshmellowing is the hottest thing a man 
can do during Cunnilingus, but again, it takes a shaved 
pussy to make it happen.


AN EXAMPLE OF THE PERFECT EXPERIENCE:

This of course is my perfect experience, you'll need to 
take the time to find out what your woman likes, but if 
you try the following example, you probably wouldn't be 
too far off:

I like the bedroom to be romantic, low lights, but not 
too low, maybe a couple of candles out of harms way, 
clean sheets and two freshly showered bodies and one 
douched pussy.

If you know your man well I suggest a little sucky-
kissy and a tussle in bed, everything but intercourse. 
Men, if you don't want her too moist, I suggest getting 
to it fairly quick, but for those who like the taste of 
a woman's clean, clear lubricant, make her drip, bring 
her arousal to a peak by touching and feeling her. Let 
her suck your cock, let her feel your body, be soft and 
pleasant, make her feel good, get her aroused.

Then once you feel the time is right, rise up and push 
her down gently onto the warm clean sheets and kiss 
her. Take a while, make the kiss a good one, women like 
kissing, honest. If you don't mind going in with your 
mouth afterwards, you could even penetrate her a few 
times just to open her up a little.

Then look into her eyes and smile mischievously as you 
begin to kiss her breasts working your way down her 
body to her pussy.

The experienced man will raise his lover's legs over 
his shoulders and bury his mouth into her pussy, 
spreading her vaginal lips with his fingers or tongue 
and then begin lapping and thrusting in and out paying 
special attention to the sensitive inner folds of the 
vaginal opening.

Dispersed amongst the tongue thrusts should be finger 
action. His arms can easily reach around her legs, or 
he can release her legs to rest on his back and play 
with her with all ten magic fingers.

After a couple of minutes of this she would probably 
crave tongue flicks on her clit then if he moved back 
to mash his chin into her slick pussy lips and give it 
a short massage with his chin, she would probably moan 
in pleasure. If he then moved back to tonguing her some 
more, and then played his fingers all over her body she 
would probably have her eyes closed with a concentrated 
look of pleasure on her face; her body straining to 
feel every wonderful sensation he was giving her.

By now she would be craving his stiff big stiff penis. 
But if he loved her he wouldn't let her have it, not 
just yet. But he would pinch her nipples and lick her 
clit a couple of times and then begin to eat her pussy 
wildly. His excitement and uninhibited attack on her 
vulnerable body would create a surge of excitement deep 
down, making her shiver in delight.

If he kept this up with enthusiastic energy and rotate 
through tongue, fingers chin, mouth work, and then clit 
flicking again in a faster and faster rhythm she would 
not be able to help myself, she'd cum all over his 
mouth. 

If I where his sex partner the neighbors would know 
that he'd done his manly duty because I don't believe 
in being quiet when I orgasm. (I can't imagine not 
letting him know how much pleasure he's given me. And I 
suggest to all women out there; reward your man by 
letting go, no matter what he did, if he got you off, 
the least you can do is lose a little control.)

Afterwards, depending on whether or not he's game, and 
after a decent interval, I think I'd fuck his brains 
out, or maybe return the favor and pour a little honey 
of him.


AUTHOR'S NOTE:

After having written The Pleasure of Fellatio 
previously I had quite a few responses from men wishing 
that their women would think more like me. Some of the 
men said that their woman was a selfish lover.

I'm not trying to imply that any of these readers were 
wrong, but it usually takes two to tango, and before 
you call you lover selfish in bed, take a close look at 
your sexual relationship. Think about trying to 
communicate your feeling directly and non-
confrontationally.

Women get defensive when they are criticized, just like 
a man would he she told him he didn't quite measure up.

I also got an interesting letter from one man wondering 
how he could bring up the Fellatio techniques that I'd 
written about to his wife without her blowing her top 
at him.

I have a good suggestion for him: Read "The Pleasure of 
Cunnilingus" very carefully and try some of the 
techniques out on her. Become an expert pussy eater, 
and when she finally asks what inspired you, tell her 
the truth, that you read an article that discussed how 
to give better Cunnilingus.

If you have a printed copy of "The Pleasure of 
Fellatio" that happens to be lying around, you might 
bring the subject around to that and even give her a 
copy. Who knows, maybe she'll even want to try it out. 
Women aren't void of imagination you know.

Either way, don't expect her to be the one to please 
you, if you're not working hard at your end.

Phoebe (phoenlxarlzona@aol.com)



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